How to Destroy a Marriage – Get Into Debt - August 25, 2011
It seems that our culture promotes the idea that after saying “Yes” to their marriage, but also say “yes” to a house payment, car payments, new furniture, nice honeymoon, and the debt each. This is a new idea, a ball and chain in her marriage is not among them, but the two debts to carry. Think about it. Debt becomes a new partner in their marriage, because they can not be separated without reducing the debt, it does not matter in marriage, has caused the debt. The debt that controls what can or can not do, where you can and can not go, and how it can and can not pass. The debt becomes part of each of their conversations, the cause of great anxiety and stress increases as each of you has a position against each other in the game fault. That’s why there’s no quicker way to destroy his marriage, to borrow.
How did we get here? In the film, “The Company Men,” there’s a scene where Ben Affleck is the facade that all is well go play golf in his expensive car after losing his job and is about to lose his house and their marriage. They falsely believed that the appearance was everything and all I had to do was do what you always did, and everything would be fine. I was wrong. The pitfalls of debt, in the belief that you never lose your job, there will always be in perfect health, and that the economy works in your favor. This is not true is a lie. There are no guarantees for the future and links with the hope of his marriage and his future ability to pay its debt is dangerous.
Who is trying to please? Is your partner? Are you? It’s your neighbor? Either they are already involved in trying to please your lender? Too much emphasis is placed on what to do to make your lender happy and keep the loan and other money. Is this really the emphasis that you want in your marriage? Do you really want to spend too much time maintaining a stranger in a bank card or credit than happy to pay more money? It ‘hard enough to manage your expectations and your spouse without having to manage the expectations of the creditor. Your lender becomes the third wheel in her marriage more and more demanding of their time and money. This is not what a marriage should look like.
Now what? Creating tension and stress that the debt is already included in your wedding is the first step in his recovery. The identification of the debt as a problem in their marriage and the agreement is to be removed is even more difficult to digest, since it goes against their expectations of life. The next step is to stop adding more debt right now, today, right now, no matter how difficult it can be. Change your expectations due to a ball and chain in his marriage with freedom and your spouse. The only way to get the ball to the foot of the debt is in dollars, little by little, the dollar, the pain the pain, but the benefits for your wedding will be significant.
Nobody is going to marry the ability to be destroyed, but that’s just what happens with a debt ball and chain. The burden is too much and a person who wants to quit, no matter the financial cost. It’s never too late to turn around and choose a different path, a path that has a ball and chain, but the freedom to live, no, and succeed.
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